Kelly Armatage ON: Transforming Trauma, Healing Mother and Father Wounds
In this episode, join me as I sit down with Kelly Armatage, a globally recognised Therapist and expert in the field of psychological trauma and behavioural transformation. Through her personal odyssey, Kelly has evolved into a beacon of healing, offering profound insights into navigating life's challenges.
At the heart of our conversation lies Kelly's groundbreaking A.S.K. Technique—a fusion of somatic and cognitive tools meticulously crafted to dismantle limiting beliefs and behavioral patterns. But our exploration doesn't stop there. We delve into the intricate dynamics of 'mother and father wounds,' dissecting their profound impacts on our behaviors and relationships.
This isn't your run-of-the-mill self-help spiel. It's a candid, no-nonsense discussion rooted in real experiences and tangible solutions. Tune in for an illuminating journey towards personal growth and healing.
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Episode Summary
Kelly's Journey to Therapy: Overcoming Trauma and Helping Others
Kelly, a trained counsellor, coach, and cognitive behavioral therapist, shared her journey of overcoming trauma and pursuing a career in therapy. She revealed that her own struggles with depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and toxic relationships led her to study the mind and human behavior. She also shared that she created an accredited therapy technique called A.S.K., which she trains other therapists on. Liz asked about Kelly's motivations and experiences during her studies. Kelly explained that she had a keen interest in understanding patterns and behaviors, leading her to read over a thousand self-help books and work with top therapists, healers, and coaches. She found satisfaction in helping others and had a natural empathy for people's struggles.
Healing, Self-Love, and Personal Growth Discussion
Liz and Kelly discussed the journey of healing, self-love, and personal growth. Kelly emphasized that this journey is lifelong and requires a cleansing of the mind, heart, spirit, and soul. She also touched on the various reasons people seek therapy, including addiction, codependency, toxic relationships, and patterns in relationships or careers. Kelly shared that they have helped people with a wide range of issues due to their content being widely shared.
Parental Wounds: Impacts and Healing
The discussion focused on the concept of 'mother and father wounds', describing them as the emotional impacts experienced in childhood due to lack of nurturing or harsh treatment from parents. Kelly explained that these wounds, which can vary in severity and may also involve modelling negative behaviors from parents, can shape an individual's later life experiences and relationships. Liz expressed concern about the difficulty of addressing such subconscious issues, and Kelly offered that awareness and self-reflection could be beneficial first steps.
Healing Mother and Father Wounds: Transformative Change
Kelly explained that 'mother and father wounds', which are unresolved emotional issues from childhood. Kelly highlighted how these wounds often manifest in one's current relationships, causing patterns of codependency or constant attempts to fix others. Liz expressed amazement at the magnitude of this work, and also acknowledged its potential for transformative change. Kelly shared stories of clients whose lives improved after addressing these issues, and emphasized that it's often not until one reaches a point of pain that they are motivated to make changes.
Transforming Trauma: A Path to Personal Growth
The discussion revolved around the role of pain and suffering in individuals' lives. Kelly asserted that trauma and pain can lead to positive changes and personal growth, referencing Nelson Mandela's transformation while in prison. She emphasized that the key is to embrace suffering and take accountability, not resist it. Liz agreed, acknowledging the difficulty of this task but highlighting the resulting benefits.
Trauma and Accountability Discussion
Liz and Kelly discussed the challenges faced by individuals seeking to address past traumas, particularly when those around them are reluctant to acknowledge or take accountability. She specifically addressed the issue of parents who may have inflicted harm, but are resistant to taking responsibility. Kelly emphasized the importance of individuals taking accountability for their own healing process, which may involve seeking help from a therapist or healer.
Setting Boundaries in Relationships
Kelly and Liz discussed the significance of setting boundaries, especially in relationships with parents. Kelly emphasized that boundaries are about respecting oneself and treating others with love, support, and respect. She suggested that expressing boundaries in a calm, assertive, and respectful manner can transform relationships. Liz admitted that setting boundaries can be scary, but Kelly reassured her that boundaries are about respect and vulnerability, not aggression or conflict. Liz discussed the goal of the show, which is to empower listeners to make small changes in their life for a better future. Liz asked about a listener who wants to model healthy mental programming for her children, and Kelly suggested she embark on a self-love journey and focus on her happiness, confidence, and self-esteem.